The 7 Steps to More Loving Relationships
Many people believe that love cannot last in any long term relationship. That eventually the romance must fade.
This is simply not true.
What is the case is that love, like all living things must be nurtured. Love requires effort.
So perhaps the first question to answer is: "Is it worth it?"
Here are a few facts about long-term loving relationships and people who are happily married
- They are happier (obviously)
- They live longer. On average about 5 years longer than single people and about 7 years longer than unhappily married people
- They are, perhaps surprisingly, wealthier.
- They have more sex than either single people or unhappily married people
But what really makes long-term loving relationship worth while is that both get to feel deeply loved. When people feel that they are happier, stronger, healthier, and wealthier.
So if you are ready to put some effort in to having a lasting loving relationship here are the 7 steps to love:
- Stop judging what is wrong, inadequate, or bad about those you love
- Stop using violence to get your way. Instead learn cooperation, giving, and taking
- Learn what love really is and how to feel it
- Begin loving yourself
- Start seeing them as beautiful
- Find ways to appreciate them and show your love
- Grow the desire the enjoy them and be in love
The first two are about stopping what blocks love. Note that when it comes to love violence is defined as whatever you might do to make someone else do what they do not want to. So giving someone the "cold-sholder" is a violent act, a way of trying to make them do what they might not want to.
Once people know how stop blocking love and they learn what love is then they can get on with growing love. Yes, unfortunately it is true. Most people mistake things like lust or heart flutters for love. Luckily, learning what love really is only takes a few minutes of reading.
